Among the wealth of questions that ran through my brain as we considered the shift toward schooling at home was, of course, the selfish one: What will this do to my life?
Ministry knows few personal boundaries (except those that are intentionally established, but that’s another post), and my wife has a very caring approach to her work as well, which means our lives are deeply intertwined at times with our vocational callings.
How can I work and teach? When will I find time to read? To exercise? To date my wife?These are all fair questions and worthy of consideration.
Seven weeks into the process, I’ve established something of a rhythm. That rhythm is currently being obliterated by a four-day-old, but at least there is a “normal” which I can now strive to regain before adjusting again.
What does a “normal” weekday look like? I will comment on the specific areas below:
04:55am – wake up
05:03am – out the door for a run
05:22am – return & shower
05:40am – sitting down for my time
07:45am – wake the kiddos
08:20am – begin the school routine
11:20am – lunch
02:30pm – finish school routine
06:00pm – dinner
07:15pm – family time
08:00pm – kiddos are in bed
The beginning of my day sounds ridiculously regimented. I didn’t schedule it with such particularity. I’ve just come to notice the clock, and these are pretty steady times if I move at the right pace.
In reality, I consider the snooze button daily.
In reality, I hate running.
I run 15 minutes each morning, which at this point is around 2 miles. I spend this time in prayer, and I find that it helps me to stay awake for my personal time. I am not aiming to break records, just to wake up and get a few endorphins flowing.
I spend my personal time in the Bible, and in personal reading, with the occasional work task. When the weather is above 50 degrees, I am on the porch with a yogurt and cup of coffee under the lights. It’s a peaceful time of the day. My focus is high, and I am generally ready when 7:45 rolls around.
I’ll share more on our school schedule later, but I’ll say that I decided early on to be 100% at school when we’re schooling. No distractions. No lingering work. No trying to finish early in order to get to another project. I am in those hours for the kiddos, and I’ve found peace in that decision. We take breaks, we move at a leisurely pace that fits our family.
Every day, there is a four hour window in the afternoon. We don’t run ragged with the kiddos. We try to say no frequently enough that we are not stressed and frustrated at the schedule. That is a family decision.
A portion of the afternoon belongs to work. A portion belongs to the family. A portion belongs to the house. I work there as the day allows, and as my responsibilities demand. With five kids under 10, we do not lack variety.
We’ve managed to maintain a pattern that involves family meals most days of the week. Ministry gets in the way periodically, but we’re pretty consistent.
Family worship is the subject of another post, but building in the time that all six (now seven) of us are together daily is also something we value. We know these times are limited, and so we cherish them. The nights sometimes run later, but we aim for the same bedtime.
Post-kiddo-bedtime evenings belong to my wife and rest. I may read if there’s time and energy. I may watch an episode of Cheers. We may just enjoy each other. But I’ve found ending the day in peace to be just as important as launching in peace.
Because 4:55 comes quickly…